there is no method to my madness

aryeo:

Rape culture is encouraging male sexual aggression. Rape culture is regarding violence as sexy and sexuality as violent. Rape culture is treating rape as a compliment, as the unbridled passion stirred in a healthy man by a beautiful woman, making irresistible the urge to rip open her bodice or slam her against a wall, or a wrought-iron fence, or a car hood, or pull her by her hair, or shove her onto a bed, or any one of a million other images of fight-fucking in movies and television shows and on the covers of romance novels that convey violent urges are inextricably linked with (straight) sexuality.

Rape culture is the way in which the constant threat of sexual assault affects women’s daily movements. Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how you wear it, how you carry yourself, where you walk, when you walk there, with whom you walk, whom you trust, what you do, where you do it, with whom you do it, what you drink, how much you drink, whether you make eye contact, if you’re alone, if you’re with a stranger, if you’re in a group, if you’re in a group of strangers, if it’s dark, if the area is unfamiliar, if you’re carrying something, how you carry it, what kind of shoes you’re wearing in case you have to run, what kind of purse you carry, what jewelry you wear, what time it is, what street it is, what environment it is, how many people you sleep with, what kind of people you sleep with, who your friends are, to whom you give your number, who’s around when the delivery guy comes, to get an apartment where you can see who’s at the door before they can see you, to check before you open the door to the delivery guy, to own a dog or a dog-sound-making machine, to get a roommate, to take self-defense, to always be alert, always pay attention, always watch your back, always be aware of your surroundings, and never let your guard down for a moment lest you be sexually assaulted and if you are and didn’t follow all the rules it’s your fault.

sapphrikah:

[TW for rape, rape culture, misogynist slurs, fat-shaming, eating disorders, abortion]

(As perceived by society.)

Now, don’t have any body fat. Be sexy. But not too sexy. You don’t wanna be a slut. Don’t have sex “early” or you’re a slut. Don’t have sex how you want or you’re a slut. Don’t you…

raincityruckus:

marshmallowmegamama:

the phrase “she’s such a strong bad ass character!”

shut up. shut up.

shut. the. fuck. up.

who decided that what we all want the most is a “strong” female character? maybe i want a weak woman character. maybe i do. because oh, there are weak fucking women. there…

Well that’s troubling and all sorts of jacked up. We are aware that “strong and bad ass” can refer to the emotional strength of a character right? And that you can be strong and bad ass while also being flawed, vulnerable, and sometimes needing help?

Suit’s Jessica Pearson is a strong bad ass who doesn’t go around stopping international terrorism. Catelyn Stark is a strong bad ass who only wants to be a mother and a wife. Sansa Stark is a strong bad ass who is surviving by playing the game and yet is in constant emotional duress. Dawn Summers was a strong bad ass who was jealous, spiteful, and stymies so unsure of herself that she was self-harming. Joyce Summers was a strong bad ass who just wanted to take care of her girls and struggled with the fact that she was grossly unprepared to do so. Kaywinnet Lee Frye is a strong bad ass who is damn near useless in a fight, exceptionally sweet, traditionally/stereotypically “girly”, and emotionally motivated.

Can we check the internalized misogyny, please? Women and girls have enough shit to deal with from society and from men. We don’t need to tear each other down, tell each other to stop being strong, or to try to impose some kind of narrow frame for how you can be strong.

If that’s too much for you step out of my feminism please. We don’t want that kind of “support”.

(Source: iinventedeverything)

As long as women’s natural body hair is called disgusting and inappropriate while men’s isn’t, I am a feminist.

As long as I can’t watch an episode of a popular sitcom without having to sit through multiple sexist comments or “jokes”, I am a feminist.

As long as women* have to face the rational fear of being sexually assaulted every time they walk home past dark, I am a feminist.

As long as misogyny exists in any country in this world, I am a feminist.

As long as women are being raped, then stoned to death or forced to marry their rapist, I am a feminist.

As long as companies promote men to manager when there are women who are equally as or better qualified, because they find that men look more authoritative, I am a feminist.

As long as women (her choice of clothes, her friendly nature, her weakness, her choice to drink alcohol) get blamed when men rape them, I am a feminist.

As long women’s opinions on online social networks are dismissed with phrases like “tits or gtfo”, “get back to the kitchen”, “are you pms’ing?”, I am a feminist.

As long as dressing like a woman is degrading for men and as long as men are insulted with phrases like “you throw like a woman”, clearly implying that being like a woman is shameful, I am a feminist.

As long as both men are women are expected to work, but taking care of children and the household are still largely considered a woman’s job, I am a feminist.

As long as boys and girls are treated differently, expected to act differently, and surrounded by different toys and colours from the day they are born, I am a feminist.

As long as topless women aren’t allowed in public unless they’re one the cover of a men’s magazine, I am a feminist.

As long as women who have sex frequently are generally told they are “sluts”, “lacking self-respect” and “lacking morals” by both men and women, while men who frequently have sex are “just being men” and it’s “natural for them”, I am a feminist.

As long as there are places where women have to pay more for health insurance than men, I am a feminist.

As long as men experience situations with equal gender representation as female-dominated, and don’t consider a group discussion equal unless there are significantly more men than women participants (as has been proven), I am a feminist.

As long as there are men who think it’s their wife or girlfriend’s duty to have sex with him whenever he wants, I am a feminist.

As long as the word feminism (“the movement aimed at equal rights for women”) has a negative connotation, I am a feminist.

As long as misogynist people exist, I am a feminist.

(Source: livefromplanetearth)